If we constantly “entertain” our children either with TV and electronic gadgets or by ourselves hovering around how can they learn to be with themselves, by themselves, to play alone, with others or to entertain themselves.
When they do learn this then space is created for us to do what we need to do.
Yes they may be bored and moan and create, initially, and we must hold this space until they settle, till something rises to the surface and they find THEY can fill the space , they know what to do.
I loved a parenting book suggestion for when they say they are bored and I have used it often. Instead of falling into the trap of listing all the amazing and wonderful things and opportunities around them, to which the reply is “nah, don’t want to, not interested” or something similar, say something like,
“ Oh dear, it’s tough being bored.”
AND leave them with it. This is the place of creativity and imagination, it’s sacred, we must try not to trample on it with OUR suggestions, they will know, something will emerge if we can hold fast and wait.
The more we encourage and allow this the more they learn how to be with themselves and the less we need to resort to the electronic back-up.
Well that’s my theory and I’m sticking with it for now.